I am an avid genealogist. The past is very important to me. I spend a lot of time in cemeteries photographing tombstones to upload on the website FindAGrave.
I enjoy recognizing long dead people by putting memorials to them online. However, every once and a while something grabs me about a specific grave. It could be the name, or the dates or a ceramic photo. In those cases, I feel compelled to dig a little deeper. That's what this series of blogs is about: The tales behind those graves. Some of my subjects will be heroes. Some will be villains. Some will be victims. And some will linger in between, like most of us. However, don't be surprised if the tales are inherently tragic. These are grave tales. They all end in death.
Saint Matthew's Cemetery is one of a cluster of adjacent cemeteries lining O'Donnell Street in East Baltimore. It is a narrow strip of land stretched between O'Donnell Street and Interstate 95. Some of the cemeteries in the area have fallen into shameful disrepair. While Saint Matthew's is hardly pristine, it is being actively maintained. There are some overturned monuments, but the grass remains cut. That's better than some cemeteries I've visited.
I traveled down to O'Donnell Street to visit another cemetery, but my wife Debbie suggested we take a look at Saint Matthew's. I had driven past it many times, but I never ventured inside. But who was I to say no to my lovely wife? I'm glad I didn't. We were only in the cemetery for a few minutes before Debbie found the Parnaby monument. It marked the graves of two parents, Bert and Margaret Parnaby, and two of their daughters, Ethel and Margaret. They all died in 1939. That alone caught my attention, but the final inscription told me I had another grave tale. It read: Mother Died Trying To Save Her Children.
I rushed home to check out the newspapers to find a truly terrible tragedy, ennobled by an act of maternal heroism. Here is the story of Gertrude Parnaby and her family:
The Evening Sun (Baltimore, Maryland), 16 August 1939, Wednesday:
What a terrible tragedy! Four dead in a late night house fire, including two children. Whenever I see a tombstone with multiple deaths on the same day during that time period, my first thought is usually that it was a house fire. The Parnabys, however, were the first victims of a house fire I found on my journey through Baltimore's cemeteries.
The Evening Sun did an excellent job recounting the story. You really get a strong feeling for the sequence of events and the emotions of the people involved. However, it raised questions in my mind. I know I am sailing in dangerous waters to question the actions of people caught in a terrifying crisis, but I found some things odd.
I am not doubting the courage or bravery of the mother Gertrude, who literally ran through a wall of flames and sacrificed her own life in an attempt to rescue her daughters. However, I have been in a small South Curley street rowhouse myself. I know the layout. If Gertrude was in the middle, second-floor bedroom, she would have had to run past the bedroom door of her two daughters to get downstairs. I can't help but wonder why she didn't grab her children before she left the house the first time.
Additionally, Gertrude must have fled the house initially without raising any alarm to either her son Charles or her husband Bert. When Charles woke up, he had no idea his mother was gone. His first instinct was to crawl into her bedroom and check her bed and floor, obviously assuming she was still there. Once he realized she wasn't in her room, he returned to his bedroom in the back of the house and jumped out of the window to safety. Interestingly, according to the story, after attempting to rescue his mother, Charles made no attempt to rescue his two sisters in the front bedroom. Perhaps the reason why would have been obvious to anyone there. Perhaps a wall of flames in front of their bedroom door made rescue appear impossible. However, the girls were not burned. They were killed by the smoke.
That said, Charles was a hero too. His first thought upon waking was to rescue his mother, and, when he got out, he put aside any concern about his own injuries to help battle the fire. Bravo.
Even the daughter Gertrude sought to re-enter the house. This was a heroic family.
Of course, the answer to my questions about their decisions is clear. The Parnaby family awoke to find their house filled with fire and smoke. That automatically leads to panic and confusion. Plus, none of them could have been thinking right. According to the fire department, the two girls in the front room were probably already dead from smoke inhalation. The judgment of those who woke up was probably adversely affected by carbon monoxide poisoning. Had Harriet Morgan not raised the alarm when she did, the entire family probably would have died in their sleep within minutes.
That any of them survived is a miracle, and the actions of Gertrude and her son Charles is a testament to their courage and love.
The story continues:
The Baltimore Sun (Baltimore, Maryland), 18 August 1939, Friday:
The Baltimore Sun (Baltimore, Maryland), 24 August 1939, Thursday:
So much for the initial verdict of the fire starting in the outside summer kitchen. I am old enough to remember the old fuse boxes, and, if I am not mistaken, I remember us putting pennies in them temporarily when we didn't have a new fuse. We got off lucky.
The Parnaby fire was a terrible disaster. However, a week later, the world was engulfed in an even more cataclysmic tragedy. Germany would invade Poland on the first day of September initiating the Second World War in Europe. Charles Parnaby, our noble survivor, would get caught up in the maelstrom. He would fight in the Army. He would survive, marry and, according to genealogical records, have children. Still, his life would be cut short. He would die on 4 March 1953. He was only thirty-three-years-old.
I don't know how he died. I could find no further newspaper stories about the children after the events surrounding the fire. I did, however, find a sad story about the father Bert in the newspaper six years prior to the fire. Here it is:
Boy, this was a family touched by tragedy. According to genealogical records, the daughter Gertrude married. In the online family trees I consulted, all information about her was marked as private. That means she is either still alive or had only recently died. I hope she managed to find some happiness.
Remember, there is a story behind every grave. You never know what you're missing when you walk past one...
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The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 3, This Is Us
The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 4, Arrival
The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 5, Methodology
The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 6, Clara's Tale, Pt. 1
The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 7, Clara's Tale, Pt. 2
The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 8, My Tale, Pt. 1
The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 9, My Tale, Pt. 2
The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 10, My Tale, Pt. 3
The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 11, Natalia's Tale, Pt. 1
The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 12, Natalia's Tale, Pt. 2
The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 13, John's Tale, Pt. 1
The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 14, John's Tale, Pt. 2
The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 15, Come Inside!
The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 16, Marion's Tale, Pt. 1
The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 17, Marion's Tale, Pt. 2
The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 18, Jeanne's Tale, Pt. 1
The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 19, Jeanne's Tale, Pt. 2
The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 20, Lisa's Tale
The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 21, Recap, Pt. 1
The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 22, Recap, Pt. 2
The Haunting of 21 St. Helens Avenue, Part 23, Recap, Pt. 3
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